...Your Boss Is Getting Too Personal
Lesson 8 from: What to Say When…Tips and Scripts for Tricky Situations at WorkIlise Benun
...Your Boss Is Getting Too Personal
Lesson 8 from: What to Say When…Tips and Scripts for Tricky Situations at WorkIlise Benun
Lesson Info
8. ...Your Boss Is Getting Too Personal
Lessons
Class Introduction
04:20 2...Others Need to Know What You’ve Accomplished
03:00 3...Someone Else Is Getting the Credit for Your Work
01:55 4...Your Boss Is Micromanaging Your Work
02:23 5...You’re Getting Too Much Work
02:15 6...It's Time for Your Annual Review
02:19 7...Your Project Has Missed Its Deadline
02:49 8...Your Boss Is Getting Too Personal
01:59...Co-Workers Are Distracting You from Your Work
02:17 10...Dealing with Co-Workers That Ask Too Many Favors
02:09 11...The Client Doesn’t like Your Work
01:37 12...Your Manager Doesn’t Totally Understand Your Work
01:57 13...There Is a Miscommunication
01:55 14...You Make a Mistake
02:12 15...A Client or Co-Worker Doesn’t Follow Through
02:08 16...You Won't Make Your Deadline
01:57 17...You’re Getting Mixed Messages
02:16 18...Dealing with Unresponsive Colleagues
02:19 19...A Co-Worker Talks Too Much During Meetings
01:50 20...You Think You Deserve a Raise
02:10 21...Networking with Strangers or VIPs
02:31 22...A Meeting Goes off Track
01:49 23...You Need to Leave a Meeting Before It Ends
01:23 24...You Arrive Late to a Meeting
01:33 25Conclusion
03:40Lesson Info
...Your Boss Is Getting Too Personal
What to say when your boss is getting too personal. Here's the situation. Your boss is about the same age as you are and you get along well, but she sometimes behaves more like a friend than a boss, for example, by talking about her own personal issues or problems at home. You listen politely and you don't reciprocate with your own stories, hoping she will get the message. You don't want to offend your boss, but you also want to keep it professional, so what should you do or say? Here's what you may be thinking and what not to say, "That's none of my business." Here's a solution. Don't assume she knows where your boundaries are or that hers are the same, or that she has clear boundaries for that matter. Sometimes what's appropriate to one is inappropriate to another. And it is your responsibility to educate your colleagues about where your boundaries are in a way that is assertive and clear without being offensive, patronizing, or condescending. So here's what you could say. "I know we...
get along well and we have a good working relationship, but sometimes the conversation goes into territory that is uncomfortable for me." You could approach it with curiosity and then say, "Are you aware of when that line is crossed? Or that what you're sharing is a bit too personal for a professional relationship, at least in my book." You could approach it with generosity and say, "Would you like me to tell you when I feel that line is crossed?" Or with humility, "I don't want to be rude but I'm not sure how to let you know when that happens. What is your preference?" Here's the over-arching idea. You have a right to set the boundaries between personal and professional relationship, but it is your responsibility to do so. Now, if that isn't your style, simply change the topic. Typically that suffices. Anything else sounds like an invitation to negotiate and you don't want that. Make sense?
Ratings and Reviews
Karlie Jessop
Love the format of this course - it was so great to be able to select a specific situation, and then quickly learn a couple of approaches to each one.