Lessons
Class Introduction
03:56 2The 3 Sets of Conclusions
05:37 3Personal Conclusions
05:48 4Social Conclusions
08:40 5Life Conclusions
07:19 6Life Perspective
04:38 7How Your Conclusions Shape Your Personality
08:32 8You Are the Saboteur
07:37Lesson Info
You Are the Saboteur
Welcome back. We've been building up quite the opening for breakthroughs in this course. And we're gonna reiterate this whole part here, about you having a very particular place that you live life from. You see, if you look around at your current circumstances. If you're someone who's struggled with money, if you're someone who's struggled with relationships, if you're someone who's struggled with your body or your sense of yourself, you've noticed that no matter what you do, you somehow keep makin' the same mistakes. I mean, if you're somebody who's ever tried to have a breakthrough in your finances, and then it gets to the end of the month, and you're down to your last two-hundred bucks, and you know you should keep that money, but you see a jacket or a pair a shoes that you really want, and you spend it. Or you're someone who's really watching what you're eating, and you know you shouldn't eat this thing, and yet you eat it. Or if you're someone who has struggled in relationships, a...
nd you keep gettin' into relationships with a certain kind of person. You know, and many times in the past, I've heard people say, "It seems like I attract these people." That's not the case. What if what you're actually doing was finding these people. Was locating them. Was putting yourself into relationships with people who at some level for yourself, you knew this wouldn't turn out for you. But why would a human being do such a thing? Why would a human being who wants to cause a breakthrough in their finances, or some breakthrough with themselves, or in their relationships, continue to repeat the same behaviors? Over and over and over. We've all heard the phrase self-sabotage. But that doesn't really do anythin'. You see, I think at some level, we all know we're self-sabotaging ourselves. In some area of our lives, we are undercutting our greatness. But what's it really all about? Well, it's to provide something for your personality to win with. You must create a familiar kind of problem for your familiar kind of answer. And that's what one's life becomes about. Setting oneself up. As I like to call it, the setup. Your life is one big setup. Over and over and over and over. And if you examine it, you'll see that your life is lived in a very distinct neighborhood. You have very familiar problems. And very familiar solutions. So, a constant break done, being related to other people, or being in an intimate relationship, might point to your independent personality. Your independent personality would always be looking for evidence to be independent. Therefore, it would find issues, problems, things that it gets hung up on. To again provide evidence for going away and being independent. You might find evidence for not being smart enough. And that might then call you to be hardworking to overcome that area. What I'd like you to do here, is start to see your own mechanism. To start to see how you work. That your life has become about expressing yourself and living from a very distinct neighborhood. That the relationships are just over there. The finances are just up that way. My body is just this way. My sense of myself is just this way. My success is just that way. It's a very definitive way of living. That's why in our lives everyday seems like the last. Because you get to perpetuate the same problems over and over and over, and solve them with that same personality over and over and over. Here's what I'd like you to do. Start to see your life in terms of this. Start to see yourself in what I'm saying. How many relationships haven't gone your way? Haven't you ever noticed something about all of those failed relationships? Haven't you ever noticed the one common denominator in all of them? You. You're the common denominator . in all your failed relationships. Your finances? You're always there. Your body, or your sense of yourself, or your accomplishments? It's always you. In other words, you're your own champion. And your own worst detractor. You are your worst enemy. But not you like a conscious you. It's more you, like an automatic you. You automatically produce the same sequence of issues and items to overcome. And then your personality will come in and solve those items for you. And you've had these experiences in life when it's like going pretty well. Like, it's going well, but it's like you're just waiting for the next problem to happen. And there it is. And then your personality will come in and save you. So, what we want to start to uncover here is, that mechanism, and for you to start to see it. In a way that's actually independent of you. Can actually see it as separate from you. More like a series of brain patterns and automatic behaviors, habits, and ways of being. You see, remember when we talked way back at the beginning about this thing called tabula rasa? The blank tablet. And that on that blank tablet there existed endless potential. And at this point in your life, you've come to a very limited potential. Why? Well, because you've forgotten. You've forgotten that you're a miracle of being. That you're someone who has the capacity to express themselves and to act in ways that are very distinct from the ways that you be and acted before. And that's what we're going to start exploring here. How to break out of the setup. How to break up the setup of being someone who's addicted to the conclusions and their personality to solve it. Stay with it, and we'll start to uncover the real tools and answers to living an authentic life.
Ratings and Reviews
Merrily Bjerkestrand
Gary, thank you for sharing your insights and building our understanding by "connecting the dots" of life and living as human beings. Your message and words are powerful and thought-provoking. More importantly, life-changing for those who wish to get out of their box, over their barriers, and live an authentic and genuinely free life beyond the velvet rope. These lessons were paced well and I appreciated the flow of connected thoughts and reasoning. Your message and points are both simple and complex at the same time. They create knowledge and understanding but are only useful if applied and put into action. Just like most of philosophy! You did a great job of identifying steps needed for personal change without reducing the need for individual action. Your bonus message of keeping one's promises to oneself sealed the deal. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
a Creativelive Student
I loved this talk! Much to ponder about our conclusions driving our lives. Our choices. How we can end up on autopilot. And how we start out with so much possibility and by bringing in awareness to our patterns we can begin to open up to operating from possibility instead narrow minded repetition. The multi universe perspective! Love that! I would love a longer more in depth class with Gary. Would be great! Thank you!
Glenys Morgan
I love that Gary is straight to the point and didn't delve into who screwed us up before we reached mid-20's - each of us has a distinct personality and challenges to deal with in our present life. The shortest course on behaviour change but I got so much out of each short segment, read the transcript as well and spent time in self-analysis. Life is one long lesson and often difficult to work through. Staying stuck in a rut is far more difficult. Thanks Gary, excellent class. And thanks to Creative Live for all the amazing classes that expand my gray matter!
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