Lessons
Class Introduction
03:56 2The 3 Sets of Conclusions
05:37 3Personal Conclusions
05:48 4Social Conclusions
08:40 5Life Conclusions
07:19 6Life Perspective
04:38 7How Your Conclusions Shape Your Personality
08:32 8You Are the Saboteur
07:37Lesson Info
Personal Conclusions
All right, so let's dive deeply into this first set of conclusions. And these are your personal conclusions. Now there's something that I want to say about this. It's not obvious what your personal conclusions are. They don't always spring to mind. You see, in life, you're just basically getting on with it. You're doing your job or working in your business, or you're at home or whatever it is you do in life, you're not really noticing your own conclusions about yourself. Here's what so. What you've concluded about yourself usually comes to the surface when you're struggling, when things aren't going your way, when you're reminded of what you've concluded about yourself. In fact, in your own life, you've set your life up to avoid what you've concluded about yourself. You have the kind of job where you get to steer away from it, where you get to focus on the positive, or focus on your strengths. But you see, what you've concluded about yourself is never really that far away. All it takes...
is one or two incidents in life and it's right there in your face again. I'm going to give you some examples, and very typical examples, of what people have concluded about themselves. I'm going to tell you about what I've concluded about myself that I discovered many years ago, through just giving some thought to why do I do what I do? A very common example of what people conclude about themselves are things like I don't belong. You might notice in your own life if that's what you've concluded about yourself. That that often comes up for you, you go in these social environments so you go to work. You often experience yourself as being on the periphery of things, as being on the outside, and in fact, when you're really pressed or when life doesn't go your way, it's a real confirmation of what you've already concluded. Another very common one is I'm not smart enough. Again, you'll see it coming up from time to time. Now, your conclusions might not be any of these two. It could be something like I'm not loved. I don't fit in. But whatever it is, you'll see it play out in your own life. That's what I want you to give some real thinking to, and I mean some real thinking. I want you to look at your life, see the places. Now again, you got to steer away from the positivity. You got to start to focus on what's just underneath that positivity, and you'll see burrowing away in the background there, is what you've concluded about yourself. Now also, remember, these conclusions aren't typically things you're very public about, so you wouldn't really tell anybody what your conclusions are. In fact, you'll mostly find that you're trying to overcome 'em, hide 'em, and pretend that they're not there. Now I'm going to give you a little bit of good news. Everybody has 'em. Even the most apparently polished human beings, yeah, they have personal conclusions. Again, your personal conclusions aren't really the things that fall out of your mouth. You don't walk into your work and say good morning everyone, I'm not smart enough. But you know what, that's very often humming away in the background of your life. Now, I said to you I was going to tell you about my personal conclusions, and the reason I'm doing that is because I want to give you a real example of what it looks like and how it plays out in one's life. You see, what I concluded about myself many years ago is that I'm not smart enough. Now how that plays out in my life is it's usually not there, I don't really notice it too much. But when a couple things go wrong, I find myself blaming myself, that I should have done better, I should have known more. I should have studied it more. Then there's the ways that I overcome it, right, and you're going to have this too in your life. One of the ways that I overcome being not smart enough is by hard work. You might be smarter than me but I'll work harder than you. There's a little play here that I'm starting to introduce. You see, while you have these conclusions, you have this thing called a personality. Your personality is designed to overcome what you've concluded. Now, there's more to this but I want you to first just kind of be with the first part here. That is, at the very core of you, on that blank tablet, indelibly marked, is what you've concluded about yourself. That conclusion, and sometimes it's as much as a small group of conclusions, is what runs you. It's actually the very heart of everything that you do. Now obviously we're going to fill this out because there's more to this then just your personal conclusions. You're going to find out about the next part in the next session, but keep this one in mind.
Ratings and Reviews
Merrily Bjerkestrand
Gary, thank you for sharing your insights and building our understanding by "connecting the dots" of life and living as human beings. Your message and words are powerful and thought-provoking. More importantly, life-changing for those who wish to get out of their box, over their barriers, and live an authentic and genuinely free life beyond the velvet rope. These lessons were paced well and I appreciated the flow of connected thoughts and reasoning. Your message and points are both simple and complex at the same time. They create knowledge and understanding but are only useful if applied and put into action. Just like most of philosophy! You did a great job of identifying steps needed for personal change without reducing the need for individual action. Your bonus message of keeping one's promises to oneself sealed the deal. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
a Creativelive Student
I loved this talk! Much to ponder about our conclusions driving our lives. Our choices. How we can end up on autopilot. And how we start out with so much possibility and by bringing in awareness to our patterns we can begin to open up to operating from possibility instead narrow minded repetition. The multi universe perspective! Love that! I would love a longer more in depth class with Gary. Would be great! Thank you!
Glenys Morgan
I love that Gary is straight to the point and didn't delve into who screwed us up before we reached mid-20's - each of us has a distinct personality and challenges to deal with in our present life. The shortest course on behaviour change but I got so much out of each short segment, read the transcript as well and spent time in self-analysis. Life is one long lesson and often difficult to work through. Staying stuck in a rut is far more difficult. Thanks Gary, excellent class. And thanks to Creative Live for all the amazing classes that expand my gray matter!
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