Lessons
Class Introduction
03:56 2The 3 Sets of Conclusions
05:37 3Personal Conclusions
05:48 4Social Conclusions
08:40 5Life Conclusions
07:19 6Life Perspective
04:38 7How Your Conclusions Shape Your Personality
08:32 8You Are the Saboteur
07:37Lesson Info
Life Conclusions
Okay! So what we have now put together is what you've concluded about yourself, what you've concluded about others, and it brings us to the third and final piece that is, what you've concluded about life. Now, what is it that you've concluded about life? Or, as I like to say, what you've concluded about life is usually what's there when you wake up in the morning. What you've concluded about life is what's there when you go for a shower, it's that experience of yourself your experience of what's happening around you. Now, what I want you to bear in mind here is that our ways that you compensate and overcome these conclusions, but what I'd like you to do is to really focus on the conclusions, to really start to see for yourself, in your own experience, what is it you've concluded about yourself, what is it that you've concluded about others, and what is it that you've concluded about life? Now, the important thing to understand here, all of these coming together put you in a very distin...
ct place, put you in a very distinct experience of being alive. Let me paint a picture for you, here's what you'll notice, human beings in general live very different lives from the ones we led 100 years ago, 200 years ago, 1000 years ago, human beings are now doing very different things than they did back then, but they all have one thing in common, what they were doing then and what they're doing now, that us human beings are constantly in a state of reaching for something better, and we're the only species on the planet that are doing that. So if you look around, monkeys are still doing what monkeys did 200 years ago, Whales are still doing what whales did 500 years ago, alligators and snakes and birds and dogs, they're all doing the same things they were doing hundreds and hundreds, if not thousands of years ago. It's not like there's a group of monkeys getting together and plotting the next trip to Mars. It's not like there's a group of pigs getting together and contemplating up opening a nightclub. None of that's happening, why? Well because they are busy just being the way that they be, and doing what they do, and it's very different for human beings. Human beings are aspiring to something greater, which on one hand, one might think 'well that's very admirable', but it begs a question. How come? Well, if you look at what we'll be working on, human beings are out to get past to get away from, to overcome, what they've concluded. What they've concluded about themselves, their social conclusions, what they've concluded about others, and then, this final piece, their life conclusions, what they have concluded about life. Now, some very common examples of life conclusions is that life is hard, life is dangerous, life is overwhelming. Now I'm going to share with you what I have concluded about life, and that is that life is hard, and again the most tasking moments of my life it's right in my face. It's a struggle, but here's the other thing I notice, when life is going well, I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. It can't be this easy, I mean come on, life is hard, right? So when you put all these three things together, What I've concluded about myself? I'm not smart enough. What I've included about people? People don't care. What I've concluded about life? Life is hard. It's actually has me have a very distinct experience of being alive. In fact it leaves me interacting with life in very definitive ways. It's very one-dimensional approach to being alive. Now if you examine your own life, here's what you might see. All the strategies, all the systems, all the structures that you have in place, to overcome what it is you've concluded. See what I like to say is that these conclusions together, leave you behind this invisible velvet rope, that you can't seem to get past. You're viewing life and interacting with life from a very definitive place, and you see everything that's happening around you, and with you, in terms of what's behind the velvet rope. You see other people, you see yourself, and you see life in these general terms. So you have the problems in your life that someone would have if they had your conclusions. You have the issues, and the items, and the insecurities, that someone would have if they had your conclusions. Now, as I said a little earlier, it would be pretty miserable to go around with these conclusions in our face all the time. You see, there's gotta be a way for you to at least have the experience that you're going beyond the velvet rope like, what's life like when I do overcome them. But then there's also something else you'll see, that by its nature you must always return to life inside of that barrier. So in the next section, what we're gonna talk about is your answers. What have you come up with, to overcome what you've concluded? And here's a little eyeopener for you. You'll actually start to see the simplicity of the mechanism you are, and there are really simple methods and structures that you've got in place to engage with life, but if you understood them, you could actually live a life way beyond who you think you are.
Ratings and Reviews
Merrily Bjerkestrand
Gary, thank you for sharing your insights and building our understanding by "connecting the dots" of life and living as human beings. Your message and words are powerful and thought-provoking. More importantly, life-changing for those who wish to get out of their box, over their barriers, and live an authentic and genuinely free life beyond the velvet rope. These lessons were paced well and I appreciated the flow of connected thoughts and reasoning. Your message and points are both simple and complex at the same time. They create knowledge and understanding but are only useful if applied and put into action. Just like most of philosophy! You did a great job of identifying steps needed for personal change without reducing the need for individual action. Your bonus message of keeping one's promises to oneself sealed the deal. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
a Creativelive Student
I loved this talk! Much to ponder about our conclusions driving our lives. Our choices. How we can end up on autopilot. And how we start out with so much possibility and by bringing in awareness to our patterns we can begin to open up to operating from possibility instead narrow minded repetition. The multi universe perspective! Love that! I would love a longer more in depth class with Gary. Would be great! Thank you!
Glenys Morgan
I love that Gary is straight to the point and didn't delve into who screwed us up before we reached mid-20's - each of us has a distinct personality and challenges to deal with in our present life. The shortest course on behaviour change but I got so much out of each short segment, read the transcript as well and spent time in self-analysis. Life is one long lesson and often difficult to work through. Staying stuck in a rut is far more difficult. Thanks Gary, excellent class. And thanks to Creative Live for all the amazing classes that expand my gray matter!
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