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Lifeview-Workview Integration

1 So we go from work view manifesto. 2 What is good work? 3 You know, what does good work mean to me? 4 To the issue of Life View, it's often called worldview. 5 What are your thoughts about the most important truths 6 that organize reality in the world? 7 You know, and actually your worldview, 8 your life view informs what your life view even talks about. 9 You know, if God's important you, well that's in there. 10 If not, it's not in there. 11 You know, if you know service 12 to mankind or person kind is in 13 there for you, then it's in there. If it's not, it's not. 14 So, your life view really does reflect your life view. 15 Reflects your life view. 16 So we've worked on that together and we're gonna handle 17 that one a little bit differently. 18 And the idea here is we want to live what Bill 19 and I call the coherent life. 20 What's the coherent life? 21 It is connecting the dots. 22 And the dots are who am I? 23 What do I believe and what am I doing? 24 And it seems rather se...

nsical. 25 And actually the research even backs up 26 that if you can articulate, interconnect those dots 27 and describe to yourself much less somebody 28 else, you know, who am I really? 29 What do I believe and what am I doing? 30 You know, when you wake up at three in the morning 31 and you run into the bathroom and you flip on the light 32 and that person in the mirror looks back at you 33 and says, why are we doing this? 34 What is going on here? 35 Who ordered this? 36 You know and that happens to you 37 and it happens to most of us at various points in time. 38 You want to be ready with a good answer. 39 You want to be able to connect those dots. 40 Because when you can connect the dots, 41 that means your chance of experiencing, meaning making, 42 you know, and someone says, is your life working for you? 43 Is it meaningful to you? 44 However you define meaning, 45 your chances of of saying yes to that go up. 46 It doesn't mean that you're perfectly aligned. 47 It doesn't mean quite coincident with fabulous, perfect, 48 you know, parallelism between all three of these things. 49 There might be times in life when you have 50 to make significant compromises. 51 We're all dealing with trade offs all the 52 time, so that's okay. 53 It's just whether or not that's a trade off you are 54 personally comfortable with and you have owned say, yeah. 55 And that is what I'm doing at this point in time. 56 That's not entirely who I am, but it's appropriate 57 because someone should change the 58 diapers and I think it's me. 59 You and so that's an appropriate thing 60 to be doing at this time in my life. 61 So what we're gonna do 62 with this is we're gonna give you a chance to think about 63 how coherent you are. 64 Pull out your life view and your work view together. 65 I'm gonna give you a minute to think on how they get along. 66 What is the integration of your lifeview and your work view? 67 The questions are, we want you to read them right now. 68 Read the ones you wrote, 69 but read them like you didn't write them. 70 Read them like you're a friend of this person. 71 You're somebody you really care about 72 and you're listening for them to see what it is you hear. 73 And does the life view 74 and the work view sound like they're from the same person? 75 Do they compliment each other? 76 Do they clash? 77 Is there a gap? Like, gosh, you know, the life view talks 78 to all this, talks about service all the time 79 and the work view doesn't even mention it. 80 That's interesting or maybe you go, wow, 81 what an integrated person she is so cool. 82 Then you know, give yourself a big gold star. 83 But just notice there is something 84 to say about the integration of the current drafts 85 of your life and work view. So take a look at those. 86 We'll give you just a couple 87 of minutes working by yourselves, maybe even 88 with a little background music to help the computation. 89 You know, what do you notice about 90 what this person's life view 91 and work view seem to do together? 92 Everybody got a thought or two? 93 Okay, good okay. So here's what we're, now, you may 94 not be done, but that's okay. 95 As we said earlier, you know, 96 we never get done in these workshops. 97 We just get started well enough, we can finish later on. 98 So what do we do with this? 99 Okay, let's, where do we go from here? 100 Where we're gonna have another conversation. 101 We're gonna be in conversation a lot today. 102 Let's use the same triads you were just in 103 'cause you already know this part of 104 that person's story a little bit. 105 And that's gonna help with this conversation. 106 We're gonna do it structurally a little bit differently. 107 By the way, we are not here 108 to have a conversation about your worldview. 109 You know, we all have very different worldviews 110 or life views, that's fine. 111 You know, we're not here to negotiate that. 112 But they do inform how our lives are going. 113 So here's how we do it. 114 Back in the triad, 115 we're gonna have three readings with a report 116 and then a discussion. 117 So each person, part one, the two parts. 118 Part one is the read and report. 119 So person number one will read his life view. 120 Here's where I'm coming from, this, what I think is the 121 way the world is organized. 122 And what I noticed about my life view 123 and work view together when I looked at them was 124 that I'm a fabulously integrated and coherent person 125 and I just, so I'm lucky to be me. 126 You know, that's what I really noticed. 127 Or I have no idea who these people are. 128 And I think I like the first one better. 129 You know, whatever it is. 130 Somewhere in between there probably. 131 So, you know, I read it and here's one or two things 132 I noticed that was kind of interesting to me. 133 Pro or con, whatever. 134 It doesn't matter, 135 you're done, no conversation. 136 Person number two, then repeat. 137 We do it again. 138 Person number two does exactly the same thing. 139 Stops no conversation. 140 Person number three reads comments. 141 Now you just poured a bunch of, you know, 142 lifeview information and integration commentary. 143 This is a discussion about the integration experience. 144 How am I getting along with myself? 145 That's the topic we're on, not, oh, that's so interesting. 146 You're an E list. 147 I never met one. 148 So that's the conversation we want to stay in. 149 And once those three readings 150 and reports have been done, we can have a conversation. 151 And the questions might be things like, 152 what are you noticing? 153 Having heard all this material, having listened to yourself 154 and listened to other people, you know, 155 what am I now noticing about these issues? 156 Some of you might spend a lot 157 of time in this philosophic kind of space, these big ideas 158 and journal a lot. 159 Some of you're like, man, I never do this. 160 You know? 161 So what are you noticing just in having worked on this 162 stuff, what ideas 163 or insights are you having for possible changes? 164 One of the feedback points we get from students we've worked 165 with years ago, there are a couple 166 of things we hear a lot years later. 167 One of the most common is, you know, 168 I pulled out my life view and I pulled out my work view 169 and I'm on version 3.2. 170 These things are never done. 171 They keep getting edited by our experience. 172 So there might already be some edits you have in mind. 173 That'd be great. 174 And how are you just finding, being in this conversation? 175 So just a general conversation, 176 how's this discussion going for you? 177 Make sense? 178 Okay, so back into your triads. 179 Somebody volunteered to be the first one up. 180 Read your life view. 181 We'll give you about about 10 minutes. 182 That'll be enough to get around that 183 and have a little conversation. 184 Definitely get back in your triangles, guys. 185 You guys don't. 186 Don't get sloppy triangles now. 187 I want a really good triangle out of you guys. 188 Gotta contain the conversation. 189 Alright, so like people, okay. 190 We are meant to discover who we were created to be 191 that person before our fears, insecurities 192 and outside voices stripped us of our light. 193 Our purpose is meant to get back to our pure selves 194 and live in full expression. 195 And that full expression is to be used to serve in some way. 196 Whether that's to care for a family, 197 help a community become an artist, 198 or work in a job where you contribute, 199 where you can contribute only in the way that you can. 200 So when I was reading that through 201 and kind of thinking about my work view, I definitely see 202 that there's integrations in that I believe work 203 and life are meant to serve and move others. 204 And that they are both very much one 205 and the same in that way. 206 And that they're also both about achieving our own fullest 207 expression, whatever that means to us, 208 and whatever that means for your own unique self. 209 And that we all have our own definition of what that means 210 and what success means, 211 and that we can only define that for ourselves. 212 So I definitely see both those. 213 Yeah, I definitely, 214 And so for you, are they integrated now? 215 In what you're doing? 216 It's getting there, yeah. 217 I definitely have some, some gaps that I'd like to fill 218 and that I'd like to be moving towards more. 219 So for me, I for my like title of job, 220 I do event production consulting, 221 so I'm very passionate about bringing together communities 222 and helping them connect. 223 And that's pretty much what events are, you know, 224 helping communities to connect. 225 But I also have a very creative side to me that I really, 226 I enjoy seeing people achieve creative expression. 227 And for me, I dance, I do music 228 and I've been facilitating some of my own events 229 and workshops outside of what I do for clients. 230 And that's been really exciting for me. 231 But, you know, how do I do more of that 232 and how do I do it in a way that can support my life? 233 My life here is inextricably linked with my faith. 234 I've been raised Catholic 235 and find that some of the deep values of 236 that faith are ingrained in how I see the world 237 and how I try to operate. 238 I believe that each individual on this earth is 239 unique and has a purpose. 240 And part of our journey is to find 241 and execute that purpose while establishing relationships 242 and relationships with others 243 and affecting others in a positive way, wherever possible. 244 I believe that we're each given gifts 245 and I feel a responsibility to develop 246 and utilize those gifts. 247 As a parent, my role entails passing this sense 248 of responsibility to my children, noting the values 249 that I prioritize 250 and conveying to my children is one of the ways 251 that my life view is exhibited. 252 For example, teaching them to treat others well, 253 to develop their potential 254 and to experience a sense of service to society. 255 Your expression of your life is your work. 256 Yeah. 257 So I will add one thing, 258 just like not everything's perfect. 259 There's a little bit of a gap there. 260 And partly, maybe it's because of the faith 261 and what I was raised is sort of, I love what I do enough 262 that there's a little part of me that feels selfish in 263 loving what I do so much. 264 And my fourth child has down syndrome 265 and she's at a boarding school that's ideal 266 for her at this point in time. 267 But eventually we're gonna have to figure out 268 where she lives as an adult. 269 And there are not a lot of great options in our area. 270 So there is that question looming 271 of should I take the skills that I have 272 and apply it to setting up an adult living space? 273 And it's still serving people. 274 It's a lot of things I'd like, 275 but it's, you know, right now I'm loving what I'm doing it 276 to leave that, to do something that's of a different kind 277 of service that would be serving people 278 that are even needier, you know is. 279 Maybe there's a way to do both. 280 Something I'm gonna have to think about. 281 Maybe there is? 282 So what we want to do, and 283 of course we're never done talking. 284 I mean, what is the purpose of life? 285 Why are we here? 286 That's a big question. We're not gonna be done, you know, 287 been agonizing that for a couple of millennia. 288 So where do we go with that? 289 Now what is it we're really after in life? 290 Well, you know, that's a big question a lot 291 of people have done a lot of research on. 292 And a friend of ours, actually, a colleague 293 of ours named Dan Pink, you may have read some of his books, 294 very famous author, right? 295 So about business things, particularly behavioral things. 296 And his most popular book "Drive the Secrets About 297 What Really Motivates People" 298 brings up a particularly interesting point we think 299 might make sense to you too. 300 There was this study that he likes to focus on, 301 actually funded by the Federal Reserve Bank about 302 compensation and money and how money works in the world, 303 and looking at how money and compensation actually 304 motivates people to do things. 305 And they did this in a variety of cultures, 306 even did it in India, you know, as well as in the US. 307 And what they found was some really interesting stuff 308 that passed a certain threshold of income, you know, 309 getting over the poverty issue and what have you. 310 Higher fiscal incentives, higher financial incentives led 311 to worse and worse performance. 312 You know, they actually went out into rural India 313 and they gave some people, you know, like, you know, 314 a week's salary bonus for something 315 or two week salary bonus for doing something 316 or a month's salary bonus for doing something. 317 And the two week salary bonus people did no better than the 318 one week salary bonus people. 319 No better at all. 320 And the month higher bonus did the worst of all 321 crashed and burned. 322 What is that about? 323 And that turns out 324 that result has been replicated in all kinds 325 of cultures over and over again. 326 Confuses the heck outta talent managers 327 and companies like, whoa, I thought 328 paying more people really worked. 329 No, it really doesn't. 330 Once you take the issue of money off the table 331 and the, you know, I can't pay my bills, 332 that's not the issue anymore for complicated tasks. 333 Other things come into now for simple carrot 334 and stick, do this, then get that, you know, teach, 335 you know, teach the dog to go through the dog door, 336 use a cookie, you know, more cookies works, you know, 337 but for things that are not simple like that 338 and all the important stuff in a human 339 life is not that simple. 340 You know, those kinds of rewards don't work. 341 The things that work, what does work? 342 They found three things that come up over and over again. 343 And they are mastery, autonomy, and purpose. 344 Once I've got enough money to live, 345 what do people really want? 346 They want to be capable 347 of being really professionally capable 348 of something they want to be a master. 349 They want to have some autonomy, some independence. 350 They want to have some control over their lives 351 and they want to know why the heck am I doing this? 352 Now, how many of you here would say, yeah, mastery, autonomy 353 of purpose, ah, that'd be okay for me. 354 Like, who is attracted to these three things? 355 Great. 356 Now here's the question. 357 Where do you get 'em? 358 How many of you think, how many 359 of you think your boss lies awake most nights worrying about 360 whether or not you're getting 361 enough mastery, autonomy and purpose? 362 Who's got that boss? 363 Maybe I do. Yeah, actually this is a rising tide actually. 364 The sort of the leading edge 365 of talent management in the professional organizational 366 development world is thinking this way, 367 but it's not the norm yet. 368 Boy, if your boss isn't thinking about it, 369 if the company's not organized around it, 370 you're screwed right? 371 No, maybe you're not. 372 Where could you get mastery, autonomy, and purpose? 373 Who's in charge of that? 374 Regardless of your situation? 375 You are, you are, right? 376 You want to get better at something, 377 invest in it. 378 Work harder. 379 You want some autonomy? 380 Look, you may not have 381 as much control over the world as you, 382 I know I would like a little more control, 383 but we have what we have. 384 You have some kind 385 of sovereignty is the technical term 386 over some domain of something. 387 How are you using it? 388 And purpose? 389 That's entirely up to you. 390 I mean, you actually don't really want other 391 people to defining your purpose for you. 392 So these things are things we can invest in ourselves, 393 even whether or not the people we work with 394 or the people over us understand them.