So, learning how to make this decision-making process work for you is kind of a really critical part of what we're trying to get across today. So, there's a discussion sheet coming around about this, and what we'd like you to do is kinda have a discussion. Are we gonna do this is in pairs or?
In tables. We're gonna do this in tables, and the three questions are sort of when you look at this thing gathering create, narrowing down, choosing and letting go, what part of that is hard for you, or what part when you look at that do you think is...?
Or maybe you love agonizing. Maybe that's your favorite thing.
That's your favorite part.
It's very popular.
Where in your life do you experience decision overload? There's a thing at Stanford called the fear of missing out. All Stanford students want to do everything all the time because they don't want to miss out on anything.
FOMO. Fear of missing out. It's crazy. It's not about packing more in, it's about getting ...
more out of extracting more from the things you do. So, but where in your life are you, in choice overload. And if happiness is getting what you want
It's wanting what you got.
Getting what you want. Not getting what you want, but wanting what you've got, how do you feel about that cause that could just sound like a silly little word game where you're trying to talk yourself
It sounds like a bumper sticker.
Talk yourself into something that's not true.
One thing I actually started doing recently is building and focusing on one thing at a time. That way if like just direct--
Direct focus and getting that thing done and having a finished thing and then moving on to the next thing and if I have ideas I write 'em in a book and then I come back to them later and either cross 'em out or laugh at them you know so, it really does give you the opportunity to get all that out and then focus on the task and again I think finishing something is the most important thing.
Just finished a little home remodel and I remember trying to pick some faucets
And I went into a store and there were you know 80 choices. (laughing)
Just a whole wall of faucets. (laughing)
And so then I worked with a friend who's a designer, I said "Give me three, I just want three." A modern, a you know whatever, and then it was really easy within five minutes I'm like "That one." I totally get the choice overwhelm bit.
I think we live particularly in an area of San Francisco bay area where there's so much going on that people always talk about how people in San Francisco are flaky because there's always so many things to do and you change your mind and there's FOMO and I think maybe here in particular is just--
Take it from an outsider.
Take it from outsider? Yeah.
Yeah when I came here I was just like oh my god there's just so much going, like I want to move here, like now that's in the plan. Like but just there's so much going on it's just awesome.
Maybe too much once you've got here do you find?
No, no, I mean it's enjoyable.